Friday, November 14, 2014

Modesty Travails

I'm more of a "let a girl wear whatever she feels comfortable wearing" kind of gal. same goes for breastfeeding cover/no cover. basically, that no one should force a woman to wear anything that she doesn't feel comfortable or not herself in. And so much of what is discussed too has major exceptions to every rule. Fingertip length is a ridiculous standard, as some girls have short arms, and some girls have very long arms. Some girls are so curvy that no matter what they wear they look luscious. ( http://imdb.to/1rkspdV ) Every double D girl knows that a shirt that completely covers the boobs make them look twice as big. Modesty is like this perfect twiggy type stereotype that is never really achieved. And so many men have so many different fetishes that it is ridiculous to try to do anything about that.A girl/woman should basically be confident enough in what she is wearing so that she is NOT thinking about whatever other people are thinking about what she is wearing. Cause that's a rabbit hole that never ends.Sure there are horrible predator type men out there - lots of them - but should we insist on letting the bad guys win? of allowing them to dictate to women what they should or should not wear? its a slippery slope.And of course, the opinion of modesty in accordance to dress is legalism in any which way you put it. The modesty verses in the Bible are specifically talking about ostentatiousness. In other words, don't walk by the beggar on the way to church in a 2 thousand dollar suit and 5 thousand dollar purse and then look the other way. And the specific verses of Paul about jewelry and such are specifically talking about the prostitutes of the temples of goddesses who "men go to worship" - in other words, to show that Christianity is not the same religion as the others at the time. Anyway, this is just a subject that I have been delving into the last couple of years as it was brought to my attention. This article was the first of many that I have read, and made me start thinking.http://www.patheos.com/.../modesty-body-policing-and.../
As far as schools go though I'm all for letting them all wear the same uniform (both boys and girls) with no dresses allowed. Why should girls get to wear dresses if boys don't? Makes no sense to me. And yes, I've taught in schools with uniforms and without uniforms, and hands down, uniform is better. Enough research shows that. Its one of the reasons why I homeschool - schools are all for making everyone think, look, and act the same. School is their job. Many jobs require a type of uniform dress. Might as well dress the part. Nothing to do with sexual modesty though (school girl uniforms are the utmost in sexual ideas) - except more to do with the ostentatiousness of modesty. harder to wear abercrombie if you are in uniform.

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Christian Gentle Parenting / Grace Based Parenting Resource Links REPOST

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CHRISTIAN ARTICLES AGAINST PUNITIVE PUNISHMENT


GENTLE PARENTING IS NOT PERMISSIVE PARENTING

STEPS AND HOW-TOS

GENERAL INFO:


INDIVIDUAL ARTICLES



VIDEOS:


FACEBOOK LINKS

Conservative Christians Against Spanking and Punishing Children
Gentle Progressive Mothers
Pursuing Grace Based Living 
Janet Lansbury - Elevating Childcare™ 
L.R.Knost - Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources 
Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond 
Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond Reader Advice
Parenting Beyond Punishment
Parenting by Design 
RIE/Mindful Parenting 
Parenting Gently
Natural Gentle Parenting
Evolutionary Parenting 
The Way of the Peaceful Parent
AhaParenting.com 
Hand to Hand Parenting
Grace Based Parenting
Gentle Christian Mothers

LIST OF REFERENCE BOOKS

1.  "Gentle Firmness" by Stephanie G. Cox, M.S.Ed  

2.  "How Would Jesus Raise your Child?" By Dr. Teresa Whitehurst 

3. "Corporal Punishment in the Bible" by William Webb

4.  "Biblical Parenting" by Crystal Lutton

5. "Attachment Parenting" by Dr. William Sears & Martha Sears

6.  "The Complete Book of Christian Parenting" by Dr. William Sears

7.  "Thy Rod and Thy Staff They Comfort Me" by Samuel Martin  
You can get this as a free ebook by contacting Sam at info@biblechild.com.

8. "Why You Do the Things You Do: The Secret to Healthy Relationships" by Tim Clinton & Gary Sibcy

9. "Grace Based Parenting" by Dr. Tim Kimmel

10. "Heartfelt Discipline" by Clay Clarkson

11. "Families Where Grace is in Place" by Jeff Vanvonderen

12. "Grace-Based Living" by Crystal Lutton

13.  All books by L. N. Knost


Blog Lists of Gentle Parenting Books:


WHAT SCIENCE SAYS


Gershoff (2008, 2002) examined hundreds of studies and presented the results of meta-analyses of the association between parental physical punishment and child and adult outcomes. She found that in childhood physical punishment was positively associated with aggression, delinquent and antisocial behavior, and being the victim of physical abuse; it was negatively associated with the quality of the parent-child relationship, mental health, and more internalization (child's internalizing of socially acceptable behavior); and associations with immediate compliance were mixed. When measured in adulthood, physical punishment was positively associated with aggression, criminal and antisocial behavior, and adult abuse of one's own child or spouse; physical punishment was negatively associated with mental health.

Gershoff (2008, 2002) also summarized the various demographic and risk factors which are more likely to be associated with use of physical punishment: being single, separated, or divorced; excessive stress from negative life events; maternal depression; lower income, education, and job status; southern part of the United States; and conservative religious beliefs and affiliation.

Bitensky (2006) presented a detailed summary of the international findings regarding physical punishment. She also described the various efforts made by the United Nations to prevent physical punishment.

Durrant and Ensom (2012) have provided an eloquent historical review and summary of recent research. In addition, they outlined the steps necessary to continue the progress toward eliminating physical punishment.